When he offered to reveal the name "in due time" I assumed that he was still trying to hold the door open to the team of the coach he said was so offensive. As in, let me see if I can find another team I like, and if I can I'll name the old coach. But I'm not sure we're leaving yet. Which made me think the evil coach maybe wasn't totally evil.

I have not decided whether to disclose this coach's name for two reasons. First, I have seen from dd's team that soccer is a small world and internet posting can cause problems--even on other teams--for a kid or his family. Second, I had never before seen this type of behavior from the coach. It is my nature to give people the benefit of the doubt. Truthfully, we have not yet decided whether to switch teams because my son loves the kids and likes the coach. In fairness to the coach, he has never said anything negative to my son. The thing I cannot get past in my head is that this guy reeled off insult after insult towards my son (to me and the wife--not in the presence of the kid) when he heard that we might be looking at other teams. Yes, he may have been caught totally off guard by our plans to look around, but you just do NOT insult 11-year old kids--especially this his parents!!!!! Yet by the end of the conversation he was was urging us to seriously consider staying on his team. Very strange conversation....

Get out of there, there are plenty of coaches and teams to choose from, why would you stay with a coach that insults you? move on.

jokerswild wrote:I have not decided whether to disclose this coach's name for two reasons. First, I have seen from dd's team that soccer is a small world and internet posting can cause problems--even on other teams--for a kid or his family. Second, I had never before seen this type of behavior from the coach. It is my nature to give people the benefit of the doubt. Truthfully, we have not yet decided whether to switch teams because my son loves the kids and likes the coach. In fairness to the coach, he has never said anything negative to my son. The thing I cannot get past in my head is that this guy reeled off insult after insult towards my son (to me and the wife--not in the presence of the kid) when he heard that we might be looking at other teams. Yes, he may have been caught totally off guard by our plans to look around, but you just do NOT insult 11-year old kids--especially this his parents!!!!! Yet by the end of the conversation he was was urging us to seriously consider staying on his team. Very strange conversation....

He revealed his true colors and it will only get worse as your boy gets older. If parents stop putting up with this BS and choose another coach we can improve the caliber of coaching in this town!

parents are so afraid of the coaches and clubs that they will put up with anything. You can't rationalize insults to a kid. An honest critique of the kids skills are okay but insults are not. But as long as parents will take it he will continue to dish it out.

Just curious what kind of "insults" to your child? Are we talking "your boy actually isn't the best player on our team" or even "your boy won't make a D1 team because he's lazy" - something that might be a heads up not an insult. Or are we talking "your kid is a loser" or something that clearly is an insult?