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    Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

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    b0013

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    Join date: 2009-06-20

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  b0013 on Sat Dec 05, 2009 5:14 pm

    THE NEEDLE wrote:
    b0013 wrote:So , all teams coming in will have to stay at hotels in Farmers Branch...?

    Yes, but they also have to agree to only speak english.


    you went there....didn't you..

    go99

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    Join date: 2009-07-09
    Location: Standing next to Klinsmann wispering in his ear.

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  go99 on Sat Dec 05, 2009 6:20 pm

    Too late. He has already had to kiss HN's pinky ring.

    The German

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  The German on Sat Dec 05, 2009 8:03 pm

    This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    go99

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  go99 on Sat Dec 05, 2009 9:47 pm

    " Yes . Crush the childrens dreams, take from the what they have earned. Show no mercy and your transformation to the darkside shall be complete. "-HN

    mrclean

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  mrclean on Sat Dec 05, 2009 9:54 pm

    The direction that sports has taken in the U.S. is just sad.

    1. Select Sports should be called "Delusions of Grandeur For Sale".

    2. Recreational sports coaches are experts of the rules on minimum playing time and too many kids ride the bench at U8,9,etc. All because some 40 year old man didn't win enough trophies for the case as a child. Pop Warner Football only requires 6 plays as a minimum. In Little League Baseball, what is it, one inning at bat?

    3. What we are doing isn't about developing soccer players. It's about trying to get parents to part with as many dollars as possible. Even our City Parks have jumped on this so that teams can't practice anywhere without shelling out the dough.

    4. The reason that we have some powerhouse clubs isn't because of the program or coaching. (There are good coaches everywhere) It's because winning breeds winning. Everyone aspires to play on the best team. That is part of the goal of select sports. However, what we have for a style in North Texas could be called "Cash, Run Fast, Crash, Cuss, Kick, and Score"

    It looks exciting. Bodies are flying. Athleticism is obvious. It might even work in college. It just isn't worth $2500 to learn this game.

    Our success at the Dallas Cup is mostly due to home field, along with our speed catching them by surprise, maybe with a little bit of the other country's players' not being fully committed to sacrificing life and limb for that 50 ball. It will work for a game or two against international opponents, but it is very easy to make adjustments against in the long run.

    A club buying a few spots at a tournament fits right in with our pay to play system. Too many "sponsors" have purchased team bags, equipment, uniforms, etc just to ensure that Junior gets his playing time. We should be used to this by now.

    b0013

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    Join date: 2009-06-20

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  b0013 on Sat Dec 05, 2009 10:32 pm

    mrclean wrote:The direction that sports has taken in the U.S. is just sad.

    1. Select Sports should be called "Delusions of Grandeur For Sale".

    2. Recreational sports coaches are experts of the rules on minimum playing time and too many kids ride the bench at U8,9,etc. All because some 40 year old man didn't win enough trophies for the case as a child. Pop Warner Football only requires 6 plays as a minimum. In Little League Baseball, what is it, one inning at bat?

    3. What we are doing isn't about developing soccer players. It's about trying to get parents to part with as many dollars as possible. Even our City Parks have jumped on this so that teams can't practice anywhere without shelling out the dough.

    4. The reason that we have some powerhouse clubs isn't because of the program or coaching. (There are good coaches everywhere) It's because winning breeds winning. Everyone aspires to play on the best team. That is part of the goal of select sports. However, what we have for a style in North Texas could be called "Cash, Run Fast, Crash, Cuss, Kick, and Score"

    It looks exciting. Bodies are flying. Athleticism is obvious. It might even work in college. It just isn't worth $2500 to learn this game.

    Our success at the Dallas Cup is mostly due to home field, along with our speed catching them by surprise, maybe with a little bit of the other country's players' not being fully committed to sacrificing life and limb for that 50 ball. It will work for a game or two against international opponents, but it is very easy to make adjustments against in the long run.

    A club buying a few spots at a tournament fits right in with our pay to play system. Too many "sponsors" have purchased team bags, equipment, uniforms, etc just to ensure that Junior gets his playing time. We should be used to this by now.




    Preach the soccer gospel brother Clean



    *


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    go99

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  go99 on Sat Dec 05, 2009 11:06 pm

    mrclean wrote:The direction that sports has taken in the U.S. is just sad.

    1. Select Sports should be called "Delusions of Grandeur For Sale".

    2. Recreational sports coaches are experts of the rules on minimum playing time and too many kids ride the bench at U8,9,etc. All because some 40 year old man didn't win enough trophies for the case as a child. Pop Warner Football only requires 6 plays as a minimum. In Little League Baseball, what is it, one inning at bat?

    3. What we are doing isn't about developing soccer players. It's about trying to get parents to part with as many dollars as possible. Even our City Parks have jumped on this so that teams can't practice anywhere without shelling out the dough.

    4. The reason that we have some powerhouse clubs isn't because of the program or coaching. (There are good coaches everywhere) It's because winning breeds winning. Everyone aspires to play on the best team. That is part of the goal of select sports. However, what we have for a style in North Texas could be called "Cash, Run Fast, Crash, Cuss, Kick, and Score"

    It looks exciting. Bodies are flying. Athleticism is obvious. It might even work in college. It just isn't worth $2500 to learn this game.

    Our success at the Dallas Cup is mostly due to home field, along with our speed catching them by surprise, maybe with a little bit of the other country's players' not being fully committed to sacrificing life and limb for that 50 ball. It will work for a game or two against international opponents, but it is very easy to make adjustments against in the long run.

    A club buying a few spots at a tournament fits right in with our pay to play system. Too many "sponsors" have purchased team bags, equipment, uniforms, etc just to ensure that Junior gets his playing time. We should be used to this by now.

    Agree 100%.

    Manbearpig

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    Join date: 2009-12-04

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Manbearpig on Sun Dec 06, 2009 4:18 pm

    Enough Said


    Last edited by Manbearpig on Sun Dec 06, 2009 10:11 pm; edited 1 time in total

    The German

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  The German on Sun Dec 06, 2009 5:07 pm

    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.
    You are right, I suck and don't know what right or wrong is and I am not an American citizen but I would be ashamed to be one if people like you compare 12 year old boys to the Taliban.

    THE NEEDLE

    Posts: 219
    Join date: 2009-08-20
    Location: Under skin

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  THE NEEDLE on Sun Dec 06, 2009 5:39 pm

    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.

    I don't agree with the changes basically providing the host club with two spots. On the other hand, there was no promise that the top four teams would receive a spot.
    Who is more upset about the changes and consequences, the adults(parents and coaches) or the kids?

    clueless

    Posts: 445
    Join date: 2009-08-06

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  clueless on Sun Dec 06, 2009 6:26 pm

    THE NEEDLE wrote:
    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.

    I don't agree with the changes basically providing the host club with two spots. On the other hand, there was no promise that the top four teams would receive a spot.
    Who is more upset about the changes and consequences, the adults(parents and coaches) or the kids?


    The kids will let this slide off their backs, the parents will hold a grudge for years. I believe most people knew the qualification criteria wasn't announced yet. The point is there were expectations set through precendence. I do think, given the timing of the announcement - it would be prudent to stick with the four and add a host team if they are top seven.
    I have no idea why manbearpig would pick on TG, but I'd be willing to bet on a wrestling match. From the post, I'm assuming manbearpig will be in front of the TD's home in protest so no one will give him an undeserved pass. Is this a fight worth fighting, or is this just something worth discussing? You can't fight every fight possible or presented. If you don't agree with something your child's school does - do you have your son fall on the sword in protest at the risk of his advancement or academic standing?
    The lesson learned here for the kids, IMO, is the golden rule (he who has the gold makes the rules) - not much more simple than that. They learn every game that some calls aren't seen, sometimes the better team doesn't win, life isn't fair, etc... It's a great venue for teaching (albeit expensive). Mr Clean is right - we all should have seen this coming.

    karlmcbride

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  karlmcbride on Sun Dec 06, 2009 7:11 pm

    Sounds like "clueless" is not.

    THE NEEDLE

    Posts: 219
    Join date: 2009-08-20
    Location: Under skin

    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  THE NEEDLE on Sun Dec 06, 2009 7:36 pm

    clueless wrote:
    THE NEEDLE wrote:
    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.

    I don't agree with the changes basically providing the host club with two spots. On the other hand, there was no promise that the top four teams would receive a spot.
    Who is more upset about the changes and consequences, the adults(parents and coaches) or the kids?


    The kids will let this slide off their backs, the parents will hold a grudge for years. I believe most people knew the qualification criteria wasn't announced yet. The point is there were expectations set through precendence. I do think, given the timing of the announcement - it would be prudent to stick with the four and add a host team if they are top seven.
    I have no idea why manbearpig would pick on TG, but I'd be willing to bet on a wrestling match. From the post, I'm assuming manbearpig will be in front of the TD's home in protest so no one will give him an undeserved pass. Is this a fight worth fighting, or is this just something worth discussing? You can't fight every fight possible or presented. If you don't agree with something your child's school does - do you have your son fall on the sword in protest at the risk of his advancement or academic standing?
    The lesson learned here for the kids, IMO, is the golden rule (he who has the gold makes the rules) - not much more simple than that. They learn every game that some calls aren't seen, sometimes the better team doesn't win, life isn't fair, etc... It's a great venue for teaching (albeit expensive). Mr Clean is right - we all should have seen this coming.

    Good comments. On the brightside, with the economy still in the tank, there maybe an opportunity to get a couple of additional local teams in the tournament. For the kids, I hope that I happens.

    sillymom

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  sillymom on Sun Dec 06, 2009 11:30 pm

    clueless wrote:
    THE NEEDLE wrote:
    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.

    I don't agree with the changes basically providing the host club with two spots. On the other hand, there was no promise that the top four teams would receive a spot.
    Who is more upset about the changes and consequences, the adults(parents and coaches) or the kids?


    The kids will let this slide off their backs, the parents will hold a grudge for years. I believe most people knew the qualification criteria wasn't announced yet. The point is there were expectations set through precendence. I do think, given the timing of the announcement - it would be prudent to stick with the four and add a host team if they are top seven.
    I have no idea why manbearpig would pick on TG, but I'd be willing to bet on a wrestling match. From the post, I'm assuming manbearpig will be in front of the TD's home in protest so no one will give him an undeserved pass. Is this a fight worth fighting, or is this just something worth discussing? You can't fight every fight possible or presented. If you don't agree with something your child's school does - do you have your son fall on the sword in protest at the risk of his advancement or academic standing?
    The lesson learned here for the kids, IMO, is the golden rule (he who has the gold makes the rules) - not much more simple than that. They learn every game that some calls aren't seen, sometimes the better team doesn't win, life isn't fair, etc... It's a great venue for teaching (albeit expensive). Mr Clean is right - we all should have seen this coming.


    I usually agree with you clue but not this time. You say this will slide off the kids backs but you say that because your son's team is not effected and a shoe in for DC, ask the kids on the Solar teams and they will tell you different. There are a few elite tournaments that every player on the top tier teams looks forward to and DC is one of these. This is like working hard all your life and building your nest egg and then bam some big crooked executive decides to be dishonest and greedy and you loose everything days before you retire.

    clueless

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  clueless on Mon Dec 07, 2009 6:56 am

    sillymom wrote:
    clueless wrote:
    THE NEEDLE wrote:
    Manbearpig wrote:
    The German wrote:This "monster" is the creation of us parents who choose for their children to play for those clubs and it doesn't matter if it is the Texans, Solar, Andromeda or FC Dallas. Each of the clubs would have taken the advantage if given to them unfortunately for them they weren't considered.
    During the last coaches meeting a month ago the topic of Dallas Cup qualification was discussed and it was made very than clear that DC has not yet decided about the procedure how many teams will qualify because of the Academy teams and homestay program and that DC can do whatever they want in that regard.
    This is a business and from a business point of view you do the best for your corporation and if that means taken an advantage you do it otherwise you are not a good business man.
    To go after the families and especially the kids is just wrong - go after the ones that bend over backwards and agree to such conditions - the Dallas Cup organizers and comittee and make their life a living hell. Just my opinion.

    I agree that the DC cup organizers lives should be made a living hell but you are wrong and dead wrong on giving yourself, the parents and the players a pass on the grounds that it is a business. Wrong is wrong. If this is what you want to teach these kids then lets just be damn straight and man up and tell the truth. "kids here is how it works, we want you to be good kids and do the right thing but if there is money involved it's ok to lie and cheat. Let's not confuse that with doing the wrong thing when there isn't a lot to gain. If the gain is low however and you won't get caught GO FOR IT. If you get caught always use the excuse that everyone else would have done the same thing. Ok you kids got that. Yes Sir!!! Good then go out there and show some integrity on the field and be the kind of young men we want you to be."
    I N T E G R I T Y.....its kind of important, German. It doesn't matter what you discussed in the last coaches meeting. NONE of you that were in it are qualified to lead a herd of ants out of a brown paper bag full of dog s*. The fact is those boys played this season with the understanding that they were playing for at least 4 slots. That kind of corporate action, upper management chicken s* has no place in the development of character in young men. German I dont know you, but I can tell you this and know with 100% certainty that I am right. YOU as a human being, a coach, a father, a business man and a citizen of the United States if in fact you are one.....SUCK. Business decision my ass and don't you ever try and tell anyone else whats "wrong" because you have no idea of what right or "wrong" is.

    I don't agree with the changes basically providing the host club with two spots. On the other hand, there was no promise that the top four teams would receive a spot.
    Who is more upset about the changes and consequences, the adults(parents and coaches) or the kids?


    The kids will let this slide off their backs, the parents will hold a grudge for years. I believe most people knew the qualification criteria wasn't announced yet. The point is there were expectations set through precendence. I do think, given the timing of the announcement - it would be prudent to stick with the four and add a host team if they are top seven.
    I have no idea why manbearpig would pick on TG, but I'd be willing to bet on a wrestling match. From the post, I'm assuming manbearpig will be in front of the TD's home in protest so no one will give him an undeserved pass. Is this a fight worth fighting, or is this just something worth discussing? You can't fight every fight possible or presented. If you don't agree with something your child's school does - do you have your son fall on the sword in protest at the risk of his advancement or academic standing?
    The lesson learned here for the kids, IMO, is the golden rule (he who has the gold makes the rules) - not much more simple than that. They learn every game that some calls aren't seen, sometimes the better team doesn't win, life isn't fair, etc... It's a great venue for teaching (albeit expensive). Mr Clean is right - we all should have seen this coming.


    I usually agree with you clue but not this time. You say this will slide off the kids backs but you say that because your son's team is not effected and a shoe in for DC, ask the kids on the Solar teams and they will tell you different. There are a few elite tournaments that every player on the top tier teams looks forward to and DC is one of these. This is like working hard all your life and building your nest egg and then bam some big crooked executive decides to be dishonest and greedy and you loose everything days before you retire.

    I think we are both wrong in that it's not 'every player' who is concerned or lets it slide. Look at an extremely tough loss in a league game, the parents are the ones super upset, the kids are over it, for the most part, the second they sling their backpack over their shoulder. I can tell you my BB could care less whether we are in DC or not - it's just not that important to him (bigger deal to me than him, for certain).
    Is it the kid in the car ride home rehashing the game, or is it the parent? If there were a soccer forum for kids, would the discussion be on the games or would it be general interest topics for the kids (music, girls, whatever...)?
    I would agree, that, right now, many of the Solar kids are not happy and probably all the parents are livid, but after a while, the sting goes away for the kids and everything is put into it's proper perspective, IMO.
    I may be wrong, but I would say the amount of kids at U13 that have worked all their lives to get to Dallas Cup would amount to a handful if there even is one. I know many of our team and parents were not aware that the first season mattered that much and/or what Dallas Cup was all about - it was a huge focus for the coach, some of the parents, but who knows if it was for the kids?
    My conversation with players has been usually has started with 'What is the big deal about Dallas Cup? What is the big deal about State Cup? Who are we playing tomorrow?' it's just not always the focus of all the players.

    Totally agree that I have a different perspective as this entire thing doesn't really affect me as our team is most likely in, if we aren't - it will free up my calendar so, life would be good regardless. The injustice of it is upsetting, but to a much much lesser extent than if I were associated with '96 or '97 Solar.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  go99 on Mon Dec 07, 2009 7:42 am

    If you think the boys are not extremely dissappointed then you are wrong. Accepting the fact and then moving on doesn't mean that it dissappoints any less. For the boys it is not about going to the cup and winning a big fat trophy. It is about the experience of playing in the cup. The international teams tons of great players and just participating. I think that they should invite the solar boys out to the DC and all of the events, and arrange them games in some of the scrimmages that take place during that time. It would allow them to experience it and also get to play some of the internationl squads. Parents would still be pissed probably but it would allow the boys some of the experience and I think the would have a great time. Adult have a shifting morality and money is king but I hate to see kids caught up in it.

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    Post  playhard on Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:29 am

    or maybe all the Dallas Texans Red players and parents should stand up, gracefully decline the spot saying that they really didn't qualify for it and let Solar play.
    Wouldn't it be so easy......

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    Post  clueless on Mon Dec 07, 2009 9:51 am

    playhard wrote:or maybe all the Dallas Texans Red players and parents should stand up, gracefully decline the spot saying that they really didn't qualify for it and let Solar play.
    Wouldn't it be so easy......

    Honestly, that wouldn't be a good solution (like siblings arguing who gets the remote) - many picked their club because of the clout/prestige they have - they are going to be allowed to play in DC due to this decision (one of the perks). The criteria wasn't known going into the season and it is an 'invitational' so, no one knows who qualified and who didn't until the qualification criterion was settled.
    go99, wholeheartedly agree that it's the experience that's important (probably lifelong memory). I really think/hope both Solar teams are eventually invited. I'm not trying to diminish the despair many feel, but I do realize it's just a game and event that will be one of many memories in various venues/sports/etc...that will lose importance over time. Look at all the academy parent's posts about the travesties occurring weekly - we all know how that felt at that point in time, this will be likely the same situation when our kids are older.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  treefrog13 on Mon Dec 07, 2009 11:07 am

    clueless:
    "....Totally agree that I have a different perspective as this entire thing doesn't really affect me as our team is most likely in, if we aren't - it will free up my calendar so, life would be good regardless. The injustice of it is upsetting, but to a much much lesser extent than if I were associated with '96 or '97 Solar"

    Clue, THAT's the whole point - it doesn't bother anyone that much until its their turn to get shafted...I've got no 'dog in the hunt', but it still torques me... I can only imagine what it's like for the Solar parents...


    Eh, well... no sense brooding over it any further... just fire off some more mail-bombs to Randy..


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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Onetime on Mon Dec 07, 2009 12:22 pm

    Everyone, no need comparing 13 year old boys to Taliban, that is WRONG and I feel sorry for you. As a parent of a Solar 97 Boy, the kids are devestated, the parents are disappointed, but we will ALL get over it.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  CH1 on Mon Dec 07, 2009 12:28 pm

    The DT open practices should be FULL ...I mean interesting now!

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  cornerkick96 on Mon Dec 07, 2009 1:24 pm

    CH1 wrote:The DT open practices should be FULL ...I mean interesting now!


    I don't know - is it really that great playing in the DC if you're the whipping post of the bracket? The DT teams that don't belong will probably get their heads handed to them. I am not sure if that is a positive thing for a team.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Tequilapark on Mon Dec 07, 2009 2:18 pm

    CH1 wrote:The DT open practices should be FULL ...I mean interesting now!


    Maybe some parents will want to take their boys to the Texans so they can play in DC, I am one of the ones that will not, been there, did not like the soccer style or philosophy, moved on.

    I do know that ultimately, its only a tournament, they will do whatever they want with the rules, its a business; but as a customer I can also choose not to go see the games, not to host any players and to support a boycott if my club decides to do it, even if this will means my bb not playing. As customers we have a choice, and there are plenty of tournaments out there.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Jedi Mind Tricks on Thu Dec 10, 2009 11:12 pm

    Just for the sake of being Devil's advocate, how many other clubs would willingly volunteer all of the manpower hours to organize an event like this and not extract similar coin? I'm not so sure that the same clubs who are aggrieved would not have acted the same.

    Of course that does not take away from the suffering that the parents and children who thought they had earned a spot in the DC, are now finding out differently. But, that is another life lesson to which we can all relate.

    Crochet

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Crochet on Fri Dec 11, 2009 9:05 am

    The solution is very simple. For this year only, accept the additional teams from Dallas that wouldve gotten in under the old formula. It's not that many. In turn, just invite 1 or at most 2 less out of town teams to participate. Easy solution. Fair to everyone. And then make sure everyone knows the rules have changed for next year.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  Gordon Jago on Fri Dec 11, 2009 12:00 pm

    It has been interesting to read in recent days some of the postings shown on the txsoccer.com and emails received by Dallas Cup staff members.

    First and foremost, we thank those soccer enthusiasts who have sent to us both critical and praise for their interest in Dr Pepper Dallas Cup, it is always appreciated.

    I am certain that any answers that I give to questions raised and statements made will not satisfy some of those people who made complaints. However, at the very least you will be aware of the actions of the Dallas Cup with regard to team selection.

    The following are some of the facts pertaining to questions raised and statements made. It should be remembered that the “Qualifying Procedures for Dallas Metro Area Teams” have changed from year to year and there has always been a statement at the end of the procedures that stated “Qualification Procedures Are Subject To Change At Any Time If Deemed Necessary By The Dallas Cup.”



    • The lateness of selection of Dallas Metro area teams was due to the time taken in selecting a new host club following the resignations of the former host club, Texans Longhorns in August of this year.

    • The number of Dallas Metro area teams selected for Dr Pepper Dallas Cup XXXI is controlled, to a degree, by:


      • How many international teams require the Dallas Cup HomeStay Program



    • To provide the number of teams to assist us in the homestay program we select from the following groups that make up what is defined as “Dallas Metro Area Teams”:


      • Local USSF Academy teams
      • Dallas Classic League teams
      • The Host Club – Dallas Texans



    • With a maximum of 180-184 teams to be selected, we attempt to gain a wide representation from around the USA, International teams and local Dallas metro area teams.

    • With applications received this year from over 300 teams it is not an easy task for the Dallas Cup competition committee to make the selections. There are many first class teams not selected as an attempt is made to obtain a wide representation from the USA and Internationally.
    • As stated, we select local teams from the three groups listed in item #3 in accordance with “HomeStay” requirements and this normally has to be done well in advance of actually knowing how many international teams will request and be granted the HomeStay Program.

      With an approximate number of 25-30 local teams selected, we know that there will always be disappointment with so many teams wishing to participate.

    • Host Club – The Texas Longhorns S.C. was the “host club” for thirty (30) years providing us with volunteers and support each year in order for us to provide a first class service to visiting teams, officials, referees, VIP’s, college coaches plus assisting us with some of our Dallas Is Diversity programs.

      With the resignation of the Texas Longhorns S.C. and an increase in our Diversity programs scheduled for 2010 there is a need for a huge increase in the number of volunteers available to us. In addition to providing volunteers the new “Host Club Concept” requires the host club to assist in the area of sponsorship development, stadium ticket sales, tournament program sales and much more than has been the case in the past years. With these factors taken into consideration, the Dallas Texans SC was selected as the new host club of the 2010 tournament.

    • Host Club Privileges
      For the support received from a “host club” certain privileges, with some restrictions, are afforded that in the past the Texas Longhorns SC were given and that is a number of “team slots” in all age groups of the tournament. The Dallas Texans have been afforded that privilege as the new host club.

    • As stated, due to the notification of the resignation by the Texan Longhorns SC in August, 2009 and the time taken for us to select a new host club, the normal procedure of informing the Classic League prior to the start of the Fall season of the number of their teams that would participate in the 2010 tournament was not possible. Therefore, the number of teams required or any indication of our needs for 2010 was not given until November.

      ANY CLUB OR TEAM COACH THAT STATED OR GAVE ANY INDICATION TO THEIR PLAYERS AND PARENTS OF THEIR TEAM QUALIFYING FOR DR PEPPER DALLAS CUP XXXI, IN 2010, WAS INCORRECT. AS PREVIOUSLY STATED THE QUALIFYING PROCEDURES CHANGE FROM YEAR TO YEAR AND IT SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN ASSUMED THAT “THE RULES” AS SOME POSTINGS AND EMAILS STATED WOULD REMAIN THE SAME FROM 2009.

      OUR COMPETITION COMMITTEE WAS NOT ABLE, UNTIL NOVEMBER, TO FINALIZE ANY NUMBERS UNTIL WE KNEW WHO WOULD BE THE NEW “HOST CLUB” AND WHICH AGE GROUPS THE EIGHT USSF ACADEMY TEAMS WOULD BE PLACED IN.

      THAT INFORMATION ON TEAM INVITATIONS WAS FORWARDED TO THE CLASSIC LEAGUE OFFICE IMMEDIATELY ONCE THOSE DETAILS WERE FINALIZED.


      The aim of the Dr Pepper Dallas Cup is to assist the development of US Soccer at all levels. Every effort is made to bring the very best teams referees and coaches to Dallas each year in order that our players, referees, and coaches can gain knowledge as they develop their soccer abilities.

      For your interest, this year there are 28 Dallas metro area teams selected for Dr Pepper Dallas Cup XXXI, fifteen percent (15%) of the total number of teams in the tournament and 20 of the 28 teams are from the Classic League.

      All of us at Dallas Cup, Inc. wish you a very Happy Holiday and every enjoyment and success in your future soccer endeavors.

      Gordon Jago, M.B.E.
      Executive Director
      Dallas Cup, Inc.



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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  ckclimited3 on Fri Dec 11, 2009 1:32 pm

    Thanks for the clarification, however I think answers to the two following questions would go a long way to helping people understand the whats and whys.
    1. Were the Texans given a greater number of team slots this year than with the Longhorns
    2. Has this situation ever happened in the Dallas Cup in the past where the host team has placed a lower place team into the tournament at the expense of a higher placed team, simply because of the hosting agreement?
    If the other hosting clubs have done this in the past, then there really isnt a reason to complain. If it has happened in the past, it may not be right, but it may be the norm.

    treefrog13

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  treefrog13 on Fri Dec 11, 2009 6:39 pm

    This 'clarification' is pretty much a euphemism for 'read the fine print' and is a perfect example of why/how lawyers make money.. Regardless of the 'letter of the law' the 'spirit' has certainly been compromised by this reworking of the selection process; for 'PR' alone, Crochet's solution of including both Solar teams should have be offered - leave one visitor out, period!

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  sillymom on Sat Dec 12, 2009 7:26 am

    ckclimited3 wrote:Thanks for the clarification, however I think answers to the two following questions would go a long way to helping people understand the whats and whys.
    1. Were the Texans given a greater number of team slots this year than with the Longhorns hell yeah it used to be 1 Texans are now given 2 out of the 4 invited and the teams have to qualify and those kids play their hearts out each year leading up to it to qualify for D1 and stay in D1 and remain top 4.
    2. Has this situation ever happened in the Dallas Cup in the past where the host team has placed a lower place team into the tournament at the expense of a higher placed team, simply because of the hosting agreement? Don't think so given this uproar. I also don't think it was an issue before- rule stipulates host club get the slots with the stipulation that they had a D1 team to fill it with.
    If the other hosting clubs have done this in the past, then there really isnt a reason to complain. If it has happened in the past, it may not be right, but it may be the norm.


    Question does the host team reap the benefits of any income from Dallas Cup? You would think so, anyone know for sure.

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    Re: Dallas Cup - moral/ethical dilemma

    Post  clueless on Sat Dec 12, 2009 1:12 pm

    The think I'm having trouble with, given the explanation:
    - Is the emphasis to get out of town teams or a better tournament (the Solar teams in question are teams that any tournament in the country would invite to make that tournament better)
    - If there is a great need/concern for the number of hosting families (wouldn't it make sense to invite the two Solar teams as they are local and more than competitive)?
    - As I mentioned earlier, it seems to me the obvious remedy would be to take the top four + any hosting team deemed qualified. The worst case this provides is that two better teams will now be in the tournament, one that has a realistic shot at winning their age bracket.
    I'm very impressed with the number of applications as well as the number of teams accepted - good information.

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